Resilience is hot.
2014 has brought with it a spike in the number of requests for resilience training, keynotes and support materials. As we at OKA have flexed to respond and take this topic on, I have discovered resilience to be a topic that has spawned a good deal of research, and while there is an expanse of work and thought on the topic, most resilience seems to be rooted in three basic behaviors or life conditions:
- Relationships: An active personal network—including but not limited to your family
- Purpose: A meaningful goal, something toward which you strive and to which you are attached
- Self-Esteem: A sense of self-regard and confidence; you like yourself
What is and has been encouraging about all of this resilience work is that the EQ-i model of emotional intelligence provides such a great set of tools both to assess these three conditions and to increase them. Read more about Resilience and EQ below.
At its heart, emotional intelligence is about relationship management. The EQ-i element of Interpersonal Relationship gives us not only a metric, but a variety of exercises and that can deepen your connection to people and root relationships in greater trust and compassion.
The EQ-i gives us metrics and suggested actions toward a couple of elements that support personal purpose—Self-Actualization and Social Responsibility. Self-Actualization focuses on striving toward meaningful goals while Social Responsibility refers to our ability and tendency to serve a collective (a family, team, organization or community) and to act with a social consciousness.
It is hard to overstate the importance of self-esteem to building and exercising resilience. The EQ-i gives us a number of ways to measure and activate self-esteem, but none as powerful as the core trio of elements Self-Regard, Self-Actualization and Optimism. These three elements—highly correlated with and dependent upon each other—are a foundation upon which all emotional intelligence (and resilience) develops. Self-Actualization gives us a drive forward; Self-Regard gives us confidence to take on the challenge, and Optimism gives us the belief in the future.
While I’m discovering a number of other approaches (and even assessments) dealing with resilience, I’ve found nothing that comes as close to the EQ-i at offering not just an assessment of resilience potential but the follow-on actions and next steps that build and exercise it. Click either EQ graphic on this page to learn more about emotional intelligence or the EQ-i training OKA offers.